How to use (〜して)あげる+くれる+もらう = (~shite) Ageru+Kureru+Morau

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:maggie-small: 「ねえ、朝ご飯作ってくれる?」

(=Nee asagohan tsukutte kureru?)

“Hey, can you make me breakfast?”

:-? 「昨日作ってあげたから今日はマギーの番だよ!」

(=Kinou tsukutte ageta kara kyou wa Maggie no ban dayo!)

“I made it for you yesterday, so it’s your turn today!”

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:maggie-small: 「じゃあお水持って来てくれる?」

(=Jaa omizu motte kite kureru?)

“Then can you bring me water?”

:-? 「誰かに持ってきてもらえば!」

(=Dare ka ni motte kite moraeba!)

“Have someone bring it to you!”

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:maggie-small: 「もうあんたには何もしてあげない!」

(=Mou anta niwa nanimo (or nannimo) shite agenai!)

“I won’t do anything for you anymore!”

:-x 「フン!何もしてくれたことないくせに!」

(=Hun! Nanimo (or Nannimo) shite kureta koto nai kuse ni!)

“Ha! You have never done anything for me anyway!”

Today we will learn :

1) ~(し)てくれる(=~(shi)te kureru)

2) ~(し)てあげる(=~(shi)te ageru)

3) ~(し)てもらう(=~(shi)te morau)

We use them when someone does a favor for us or when you do something for someone.

First, let’s check the basic patterns :

くれる(=kureru)  

 :rrrr:  negative form くれない(=kurenai)

 :rrrr:  past tense くれた(=kureta)

 :rrrr:  past negative れなかった(=kurenakatta)

 :rrrr:  *formal form 下さる(=kudasaru)


あげる(=ageru)

 :rrrr:  negative form あげない(=agenai)

 :rrrr:  past tense あげた(=ageta)

 :rrrr: past negative あげなかった(=agenakatta)

 :rrrr:  *formal form 差し上げる(=sashiageru)


もらう(=morau)

 :rrrr:  negative form もらわない(=morawanai)

 :rrrr:  past tense もらった(=moratta)

 :rrrr:  past negative もらわなかった(=morawanakatta)

 :rrrr:  *formal form 頂く(=itadaku)

*Remarks:

1) We won’t focus on the formal forms in this lesson.

 2) くれる(=kureru), あげる(=ageru), もらう(=morau) are used between friends and family. So be careful who you use them with.


1) When you give or receive some objects :

(〜を)くれる

(=(objects~wo) kureru)

Someone gives you something (from the receiver’s point of view)


(〜を)あげる

(=(objects~wo) ageru)

To give someone something (from the speaker’s point of view)


(〜を)もらう

(=(objects~wo) morau)

To receive something from someone  (from the receiver’s point of view)

 !star! Basic sentence structures :

A (subject)(=ga)/(=wa) B ( ni)+(objects)を(=wo)くれる(=kureru) give

A (subject) (=ga) /(=wa)B ( ni)+(objects)を(=wo)あげる(=ageru) give

A (subject) が(=ga) /は(=wa)B から( kara)+(objects)を(=wo)もらう(=morau) receive

 :rrrr: The order can be switched

A (=ga)/(=wa) +objects を+ B(=ni) くれる(=kureru)あげる(=ageru) もらう(=morau)/ Bから(=kara)もらう(=morau)

•くれる(=kureru)

Ex. 1) マギーが(私に)お菓子をくれた

(=Maggie ga (watashini) okashi wo kureta.)

Maggie gave me sweets.

*Note : Usually the receiver should be “(=watashi), me“, not the third person.

X 山田さんが加藤さんにお菓子をくれた。→wrong!

(=Yamada san ga katou san ni okashi wo kureta.)

but if the receiver is close to you such as your family, sweethearts or pets, you can say :

:rrrr: 山田さんが息子にお菓子をくれた

(=Yamada san ga musuko ni okashi wo kureta.)

Yamada-san gave my son sweets.

•そのお菓子を息子にくれますか?

(=Sono okashi wo musuko ni kuremasu ka?)

Can you give the sweets to my son?

You can also say

 :rrrr: そのお菓子を息子にもらえます

=Sono okashi (wo)musuko ni moraemasu ka?)

**We usually say  頂けますか(=itadakemasuka) polite form

マギー、そのお菓子(は)、誰がくれたの?

(=Maggie, sono okashi (wa) dare gakureta no?)

=Maggie, who gave you the sweets?

You can also say

 :rrrr: 誰からそのお菓子(を)もらったの?

(=Darekara sono okashi (wo)morattano?)

=Who did you get that from?

Also (=watashi), “I”, can’t be a subject.

X がマギーにお菓子をくれた

(=Watashi ga maggie ni okashi wo kureta.)

 :rrrr: wrong!

 You should use あげた(=ageta) instead of くれた(=kureta)


あげる(=ageru)

Ex. 2) 私は、マギーにお菓子をあげた

(=Watashi wa  Maggie ni okashi wo ageta.)

I gave Maggie sweets.

*Note : The receiver can’t be  (=watashi), me


X あなた私にお菓子をあげたwrong

(=Anata ga watashi ni okashi wo ageta.)

You should use くれた(=kureta) instead of あげた(=ageta)

X ギー私にお菓子をあげますか?wrong

(=Maggie, watasni ni okashi wo agemasu ka?) 

You should use くれます(=kuremasu ka) instead of あげますか(=agemasuka)

The third persons can be the subject and object.

:rrrr: 山田さんが加藤さんにお菓子をあげた

(=Yamada san ga katou san ni okashi wo ageta.)

Yamada-san gave Kato-san sweets.


もらう(=morau)

Ex. 3) 私はマギーにお菓子をもらった

(=Watashi wa Maggie ni okashi wo moratta.)

I received sweets from Maggie.

Ex. 4)「この花は誰からもらったの?

(=Kono hana wa dare kara moratta no?)

“Who did you receive these flowers from?”

 (=”Who gave you these flowers?” )


「彼からもらいました。」

(=kare kara moraimashita.)

“I got (received) them from my boyfriend.”

Ex. 5)「申し込み用紙が欲しい人は事務所でもらって下さい。」

(=Moushikomi youshi ga hoshii hito wa jimusho de moratte kudasai.?)

A person who wants the application form, please receive it at the office.

→”If you want the application form, please get it at the office.”


2) Now  let’s learn the statements involving receiving or giving actions.

:ee:~(し)てくれる(=~(shi)te kureru)

someone does a favor for you (the receiver’s point of view)


:l:
~(し)てあげる(=~(shi)te ageru)

to do something (nice) for someone else,  to do someone a favor  (the speaker’s point of view)


:qq:~(し)てもらう(=~(shi)te morau)

to have someone to do a favor for you.

For example if Mr.Suzuki treated you for dinner or something you can just say :

鈴木さんが私をおごった。

(=Suzuki san ga watashi wo ogotta.)

Mr. Suzuki treated me.

私は鈴木さんにおごられた。

(=Watashi wa Suzuki san ni ogorareta. ) 

I was treated by Mr.Suzuki

But these phrases are very “flat” and we don’t use or hear these in daily life.
Instead, we say :

:rrrr: 鈴木さんがおごってくれた

(=Suzuki san ga ogotte kureta.)

Mr.Suzuki treated me.

(or 御馳走してくれた

(=gochisou shite kureta.)

Note : 御馳走する(gochisou suru) is more polite than おごる(=ogoru)

(私は)鈴木さんにおごってもらった

(=(Watashi wa) Suzuki san ni ogotte moratta.) (from my, the receiver’s,  point of view)

I was treated by Mr.Suzuki (=Mr.Suzuki treated me.)

(Or 御馳走してしてもらった

(=gochisou shite moratta.)

It adds certain feelings to the statement such as “I am very fortunate” “Mr.Suzuki is nice and generous.”

Also Mr.Suzuki will say

マギーにおごっあげた

(=Maggie ni ogotte ageta.)

I treated Maggie!

(from Suzuki-san’s point of view. He thinks he did something nice for Maggie.)

:ee: ~(し)くれる

(=~(shi)te kureru)

someone does a favor for you,

You can use it when you ask someone a favor.

ここに名前を書いてくれる

(=Koko ni namae wo kaite kureru?)

“Can you write your name here?”


料理(を)つくってくれる

(=Ryouri (o) tsukutte kureru?)

“Can you cook (for me)?”


明日来くれますか?

(=Ashita(or asu)  kite kuremasu ka?)

adding ます(=masu) makes it more polite.

“Can you come tomorrow (for me)?”


朝6時に起こしてくれる

(=Asa rokuji ni okoshite kureru?)

“Can you wake me up tomorrow morning?”


母がお弁当を作ってくれた

(=Haha ga obentou wo tsukutte kureta.)

“My mother made lunch for me.”


マギー先生が日本語を教えてくれました

(=Maggie sensei ga nihongo wo oshiete kuremashita.)

“Miss Maggie taught me Japanese.”

 adding まし(=mashi)makes it more polite.

:ee: ~(し)てあげる(=~(shi)teageru) to do something for someone,  to do someone a favor

 

ここに名前を書いてあげる

(=Koko ni namae wo kaite ageru)

“I will write my name here (for you)!”


料理を作ってあげます

(=Ryouri wo tsukutte age masu)

→ adding ます(=masu) makes it more polite.

“I will cook for you!”


明日、来あげる

(=Ashita kite ageru)

“I will come here tomorrow.” (for you!)


朝6時に起こしてあげる

(=Asa rokuji ni okoshite ageru.)

“I will (do you a favor and) wake you up tomorrow.


息子にお弁当を作ってあげる

(=Musuko ni obentou wo tsukutte ageru.)

I will (do him a favor and) make lunch for my son. (for his favor)


日本語を教えあげる

(=Nihongo wo oshiete ageru.)

I will (do you a favor) and teach you Japanese.

Note: Again we use あげる(=ageru) and してあげる=(shi)te ageru)often between friends but avoid using it towards higher ranking people or superiors.

We use it with equal level or lower ranking people. So if you misuse it with superiors, they might think you are looking down on them.

:s: ~(し)て)もらう(=〜(shi)te morau) to have someone to do a favor for you.


ここに名前を書いてもらう

(=Koko ni namae wo kaite morau.)

to have someone write their name (for me).


料理を作っもらう

(=Ryouri wo tsukutte morau.)

to have someone cook for me


明日、来てもらう

(=Ashita (asu) kite morau.)

to have someone to come here tomorrow


朝6時に起こしてもらう

(=Asa rokuji ni okoshite morau.)

to have someone to wake me up at 6:00 in the morning


母にお弁当を作っもらう

(=Haha ni obentou wo tsukutte morau.)

to have mother to make lunch for me.


マギー先生に日本語を教えてもらう

(=Maggie sensei ni nihongo wo oshiete morau.)

to have Miss Maggie to teach Japanese for me

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:jjj:Now it is time to practice!!

Try to make sentences using the following verbs and make あげる(=ageru), くれる(=kureru),もらう(= morau) sentences.

1) 洗濯(=sentaku) to do laundry


2)買い物に行く(=kaimono ni iku) to go shopping


3)もらう(=morau) to receive ** might be confusing but please try!


4)掃除をする(=souji wo suru.) to clean

:u:

Answer examples :

1) 洗濯をしてあげる(=sentaku wo shite ageru) to do the laundry for you

Ex.明日、洗濯をしてあげようか?

(=ashita sentaku wo shite ageyou ka?)

Do you want me to do the laundry for you tomorrow?


*洗濯をしてくれる。(=sentaku wo shite kureru?)  Someone do the laundry for me?

Ex. 洗濯をしてくれるの?

(=sentaku wo shite kureru no?)

“Will you do the laundry for me?”


*洗濯をしてもらう。(=sentaku wo shite morau) to have someone do the laundry for me

Ex.いつも母に洗濯をしてもらっている。

(=Itsumo haha ni sentaku wo shite moratte iru.)

I always have my mom do the laundry.

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2) *買い物に行ってあげる

(=kaimono ni itte ageru)

to go shopping for you

Ex. 街に行くから買い物に行ってあげるよ。

(=Machi ni iku kara kaimono ni itte ageruyo.)

I will go to town so I will do the shopping for you.


*買い物に行ってくれる

(=kaimono ni itte kureru)

Someone goes shopping for me

Ex. ついでに買い物に行ってくれる

(=Tsuide ni kaimono ni itte kureru?)

“Can you go shopping while you are out?”


*買い物に行ってもらう

(=kaimono ni itte morau)

to have someone go shopping for me

Ex. 田中さんにお中元の買い物をしてもらう

(=Tanaka san ni ochuugen no kaimono wo shite morau.)

I have Tanaka-san go shopping for me. (Tanaka san goes shopping for me.)

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3)*もらってあげる

(=moratte ageru)

Ex. これ、誰もいらないの?ならもらってあげるよ。

(=Kore are mo iranaino? Nara moratte ageruyo.)

“Nobody wants this? Then I will take it (for you)!”


*もらってくれる

(=moratte kureru)

Ex. この服、大きいから誰かもらってくれる

(=Kono fuku ookii kara dare ka moratte kureru?)

“This clothes is too big for me. (So) Does anybody want to do me a favor and take this (for me)?”


*もらってもらう

(=moratte morau)

Ex. 誰もいらないのなら彼にもらってもらいます。

(=Dare mo iranai no nara kare ni moratte moraimasu.)

“If nobody wants this, I will have him take it.”

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4)*掃除をしてあげる (=souji wo shite ageru) to clean up for you

Ex.あなたの部屋、汚いから掃除をしてあげようか?

(=Anata no heya kitanai kara souji wo shite ageyou ka?)

“Your room is getting messier. Do you want me to clean it up for you?


*掃除をしてくれる

(=souji wo shite kureru)

Someone cleans up for me

Ex. 掃除をしてくれる人がいていいね。

(=Souji wo shite kureru hito ga ite iine.)

“You are lucky to have someone who cleans up for you.”


*掃除をしてもらう(=souji wo shite morau) to have someone clean up

Ex.部屋が汚くなってきたから彼に掃除をしてもらおう。

(=Hewa ga kitanaku natte kitakara kare ni souji wo shite moraou.)

Since the room is getting, let’s get him to clean it up.

:maggie-small: From the pictures above :

:u:
:-| 「昨日作ってあげたから今日はマギーのだよ!」

(=Kinou tsukutte ageta kara kyou wa Maggie no ban dayo!)

“I made it for you yesterday, so it’s your turn today!”

(=ban) turn

Ex.今度、私の

(=Kondo watashi no ban?)

Is this my turn?

:-x 「フン!何もしてくれたことないくせに!

(=Hun! Nanimo (or Nannimo) shite kureta koto nai kuse ni!)

“Ha! You have never done anything for me anyway!”

~くせに(=kuseni) even if, but, when you emphasize or accuse someone’s fault

Ex. 彼は何もできないくせに文句ばかり言う。

(=Kare wa nani mo deikinai kuse ni monku bakari iu)

He can’t do anything, but  he always complains.

 :rrrr: If you want to learn more about くせに(=kuseni) go check this lesson.


frenchbulldogマギー先生より (=Maggie sensei yori)

ホワイトデーに何かくれた人にはいい成績をあげます。

(=Howaito dei ni nanika kureta hito niwa ii seiseki wo agemasu.)

えっ?バレンタインに何ももらっていないって?

(=Eh? Barentain ni nani mo moartte inai tte?)

I will give you a good score if you give me something for “White Day”!
What? You didn’t get anything from me for Valentine’s Day?

!to right! Esta leccion está traducida en español.

Our friend, Orti, volunteered to translate this lesson in Spanish.  Go check the translation. Click here.

Muchas gracias, Orti! !heart3!

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114 Comments

  1. Dear Maggie Sensei,

    Now I understand the difference between あげます and くれます, I only have one question regarding もらいます.
    (I’m sorry if someone has already asked that, there are so many comments that I couldn’t read all of them.)

    I know where the position of わたし should be in senteces using あげます and くれます.
    I’m just not sure where わたし can be if I say もらいます.

    I know it can be in the beginning, eg. I received money from my mother: 私は母からお金をもらいました。
    But if I want to say: “My mother received flowers from me”, can is say: 母は私に花をもらいました。?

    Thank you very much in advance!

    Berry

    1. @Berry

      Hi Berry. Sorry. I found your four messages. They went to SPAM folder for some reason. I erased the other three messages.

      Q: I know it can be in the beginning, eg. I received money from my mother: 私は母からお金をもらいました。
      But if I want to say: “My mother received flowers from me”, can is say: 母は私に花をもらいました。?

      Yes, technically you can say 母は私に(or から)花をもらいました。
      Since the speaker is a giver, it will be more natural to say 私は母に花をあげました。

      But if the third person gave flowers to the speaker’s mother, you can say
      母は、〜に花をもらいました。

      (I will post the same Q&A in Maggie’s room in case you check there.)

  2. Sorry for yet another post (I can’t modify my posted message! Do delete my previous posts if it is taking up space!)

    I think I somewhat understand it after looking at the posts a couple of times.

    The gist of it isn’t really about the particle に or the change in verb form. It is about the speaker/listeners’ perspective. Do correct me if i am wrong on this.

    For example, it would be odd just to say “そのお菓子を息子にもらえますか” (can you receive that sweet from my son) since it would be rude to reject a gift when someone offers it to you in Japanese culture, let alone of a children. (It is okay to reject once or twice, however, to initiate this kind of question would probably means that “my son” has been rejected at least dozen times).

    Because of this, whenever this question is initiated, it can only be perceived as “can i receive that sweet from my son” since the other option, “can you receive that sweet from my son” is literally not possible due to the norms Japanese shares.

    1. Good question.
      Someone else was asking me the same question in past.

      You learned the following pattern with a particle に and もらう , right?

      * マギーに本をもらう。
      = I received a book from Maggie.

      もらう= receive
      に= from (a person who you get something from)

      * マギーに本を貸してもらう
      = I have Maggie lend me a book (for me)
      = Maggie lends me a book.

      V+てもらう = to have someone to do a favor for you.
      に = object marker (a person who you get a favor from)

      Now, how would you say when you want a book from me?
      guessing from your question, you may answer,

      マギーに本をもらえませんか?

      If you say that, the listener would think
      Can you give a book for Maggie?
      The receiver of the book is Maggie.

      You should say
      私に本をもらえませんか?
      = Can I have a book (from you)?

      And if you want me to lend you a book, you say
      私に本を貸してもらえませんか?
      = Can you lend me a book?

      ***

      You can use the same idea for this sentence.
      そのお菓子を私の息子にもらえませんか?

      私の息子 (my son) is a receiver
      お菓子 is an object
      もらえませんか? Can I have = Can you give ?

      Can you give that sweet to my son?

      If you meant to say I got that sweet from my son, you say

      そのお菓子は私の息子からもらいました。

  3. Sorry for the additional post as I just stumbled across a similar question.

    I still can’t understand why it would differ so much just because the form of the verb changes. I am betting that the gist of it lies within the particle “に”. But even if the “に” here is “のために”, under what circumstances should we see the “に” here as “のために”?

  4. One question.

    Why is “Can you give the sweets to my son?” = そのお菓子を息子にもらえますか

    Because of the particle “ni” and the receiving verb, shouldn’t it be (can you) received sweets from my son?

  5. Hello Maggie Sensei!!

    I have a bit of trouble with morau :-?
    I know that the meaning is “having someone doing something for me”

    But somehow i cannot understans this prase : a bad guy asks to his victim to tell him what he knows : “Kikasetemorauka?”
    it ithis verb , kiku that amkes everything bad :((((
    i assume it is used in the “to hear” meaning right?

    I cannot figure things out :cryingboy: with kureru and ageru it is easier but with morau i get confused^^

    In this it would mean : “i would like to receive the favor from you that you let me hear you????” Basivally i don’t know who would let the other hear him…The locutor, the interlocutor?

    Sorry for the confuse answer and i would like to says that your site is the best i have found to learn very usefull things in japanese!!

    Thank you again for all your hard work on it!!! :-D

    1. Sorry for the double message but here is another example : “言わせてもらうけど。
      Apparently it would mean “let me tell you something” but i just cannot comprhend it :cry: 申し訳ありません !

      1. Hello rysper!
        Regarding your first question, I think it should be 「聞かせてもらおうか」 instead of 「聞かせてもらうか」. In this case it means “Let me hear it!” The sentence should be understood as follows: The bad guy receives a favour from his victim of letting him hear about something.
        The same scenario goes to: 「見せてもらおうか!」 which means “Show me!”, as in 「キサマの本当の力、見せてもらおうか!」.

        Regarding your second question, 言わせてもらうけど means “Let me tell you something…”. So basically you receive the permission from your 相手 that allows you to say something to her/him.
        The same scenario goes to: 「私の立場から言わせてもらえば…」 which means “if you allow me to show you my point of view”.

        ご参考になれば。

        1. Thank you :-D

          I can see what you mean but even with that it is a bit hard for me to “understand ” it :cry:
          I think it is because with morau, the point of you is on me or someone close to me and feels a bit bizarre, whereas with kureru it is on the interlocutor and feels more “natural”.. so if i write “misetekureru(ka)” i can understand it a bit better than with “misetemorau(ka)” beacause with saying “show me”, the point on view is on the interlocutor and feels right..the translation “i would like you to show me” (the point of you is on me) doesn’t appear in my head naturally^^

          So when the verb is more complicated like kikasete (in this case”to have the permission to hear”) i completely lose it^^

          Just a little thing : why did you use the o form in this : 「聞かせてもらおうか」

          ご教示ありがとうございま ! :-D i need to practice more :)

          1. Generally してもらう means have someone do something.
            And させてもらう means let someone do something (in the context of receiving a permission to do something).
            From the context you will learn who receives the favour.

            友達に空港へ連れてってもらいました。 => The Speaker received the favour of taking him to the airport from his friend.
            マギー先生にrysperのエッセーを訂正してもらいます。=> You will receive from Maggie the favour of revising your essay.

            聞かせてもらおうか sounds to me more natural in this case / context (=> a bad guy asks to his victim to tell him what he know).

            Well, to be honest, these constructions are relatively easy. But I found on the Internet a nice pattern-combo, look:
            ありがたく使わせてもらわせてもらうことにしました。 *mind blowing*

            マギー、以上の文書の日本語が違うかどうか分からないけど、とにかく、英語にしてもらってみようか?^^
            この「もらわせてもらう」・・・・。 orz

          2. @天人

            Thank you again for helping rysper

            @rysper

            Hi rysper, 天人さん is already helping you but just let me add something that I didn’t mention in my lesson.

            You use あげる(→やる)・くれる・もらう for something favorable in general.
            But you sometimes you them negatively.

            *あげる(→usually with a casual form やる)

            Ex. ぼこぼこにしてやる (threat)
            = I will beat you up.

            *くれる
            Ex. よくもこんなことをしてくれたね。(くれたな)(sarcasm)
            = How could you do that to me.

            *もらう
            Ex. 借りは返してもらう。(challenge/ command)
            = I will have you pay me back what you owe me.

            Now your question, you usually use

            Someoneに〜をVてもらう = to have someone do something favorable for the speaker

            Ex. マギーにこの文を訳してもらう。 I will have Maggie translate this sentence.
            Ex. マギーにこの文を訳してもらおうか。Should we ask Maggie to translate this sentence? /Let’s ask Maggie to translate this sentence, shall we?

            However, you sometimes use Vてもらう/ Vて+ もらおうか/(politer) Vて+ もらいましょうか when you challenge someone to do something.→It may sound polite but actually a speaker is telling a listener to do something.

            聞かせてもらおうか (Talking to a listener directly)
            = Let me hear your story / Let me hear you
            = I will have you tell me something.
            This could also mean
            = Tell me / Explain ( ~ ) to me. (command)

            やってもらおうか (Talking to a listener directly)
            = I will challenge you to do ~ .
            →Do ~ (command)

            ***

            Vてもらう・もらいます means “to have someone do something favorable for you”
            or to ask someone a permission to do something
            → Allow me to do something/ Let me do ~
            But you also use Vてもらう・もらいます when you express your strong will regardless what one’s listener think.
            →I’ll take the liberty to do something 

            言わせてもらうけど= Let me tell you something (and tell the listener your point)
            You use this phrase when you make your point or talk back to someone.

            Hope this helps…

          3. ご苦労さまでした、マギーさん。詳しく教えてくれてありがとうございました。しかし、残りは私の質問のようです。この件に関しても少し手を貸してくれれば大変ありがたく存じます。
            よろしくおねがいします。

          4. @天人

            Sorry! You mean this sentence?
            ありがたく使わせてもらわせてもらうことにしました。
            I would say this sentence is redundant.

            ありがたく使わせてもらうことにしました。is more natural.

          5. この見事な説明Hyakkaiありがとうご!!! !happyface!

            If i try to put in application all (but i still have a lot of work to do), 英語にしてもらってみようか means : “can you try to translate (this) in english for me?” And if the meaning is to be “offensive, negative” it becomes : “i will have you try to translate (this) in english for me”. (the 2nd example could apply to the first but i chosed it here because it sounded more “rude”^^).

            Thank you for the precision Maggie sensei!, i had noticed that in animes people often say “bad” things to others using kureru/ageru/moreru and i felt it was to be even more “rude” since usually you use them to add a “thankfull” nuance to your phrase.

            Unfortunately i couldn’t translate ありがたく使わせてもらうことにしました :cryingboy: the とにしました preturbed me i know that it means “to choose to do something” but here it is bizarre^^

            I won’t take anymore place in this page and i’m sorry to have taken that lot so far!!
            again, ありがとうございました!!

          6. @rysper

            Hi rysper,

            I am getting confused which question is to whom so I will just answer your second question.

            使わせてもらうことにしました。

            使わせてもらう = The literal meaning is “to allow myself to use ~ ” but it is a humble way to say 使う
            〜ことにしました means “to decided to do something”
            So 使わせてもらうことにしました。means
            I decided to use it with appreciation.

  6. Hi Maggie sensei

    I am wondering if the following are the same.

    I go to a shop and I would like to take a look at a toy
    (placed inside a glass cabinet).

    I point to the toy and ask the shop keeper.

    これ、見せて もらえませんか? potential
    これ、見せて もらえますか?
    これ、見せて もらいますか?

    これ、見せて くれられませんか? potential
    これ、見せて くれられますか?
    これ、見せて くれますか?

    これ、見せて いただけないでしょうか?

    これ、見せて ください。

    Note: Assuming I want to take a look, and so, I used “見せて”
    instead of “見て”. i.e. allow me to see.

    Thank you very much.

    Regards
    Kenz

    1. @Kenz

      これ、見せて くれられませんか? should be 見せてくれませんか?
      これ、見せて くれられますか? should be 見せてくれますか?
      Please go check my latest lesson. I explained the difference of all the forms.

  7. Can you tell me the difference between ageru:Increase in price
    Noboru:to advance in price
    Agaru:To raise in price._.__…?ぜんぜんわからないです。

    1. @Rodney

      If you are talking about raising price, you use 上がる(= agaru)
      値段が上がる = nedan ga agaru.

      上る(のぼる)= noboru is used when you are talking about “amount up ~~”
      Ex. 損失は1~~円に上る= Sonshitsu wa juuokuen ni noboru = The loss amounts up ~~ yen.
      Or when someone/something physically goes up high place.
      1) when the amount sums up

  8. Hi.

    I have a question I would like to ask. I have read that, usually, てくれる expresses the idea of a spontaneous favour done to you whether or not you requested for it previously, correct?

    Can I use てくれる in the negative form to express that I would love that a specific person did a favour to me, but that may never happen? This is the sentence I have in mind: “He will never hug me”.

    My attempts.
    彼は決して抱きしめてくれない。
    Or 彼に決して抱きしめられてくれない。 (I get the impression this one sounds awful >.<)

    I have only seen てくれない used for questions but never for negative statements so it is worth asking.

    Thanks for the lesson.

    1. @Mew34

      Yes, when someone doesn’t do a favor that you expect, you can say ~てくれない

      Ex.彼女はちっとも料理を作ってくれない。
      = She never cooks for me.
      Ex.生徒が宿題をやってくれない。
      = My students don’t do homework. (for me.)

      彼は決して抱きしめてくれない。→correct
      彼に決して抱きしめられてくれない。→This sentence is not natural because it is a passive tense.

  9. hi, I’d read your post but still I don’t understand how to say “please send me lot of clover too this year” in japanese?…is it 今年もたくさんクロバーをあげてねぇ.
    thank you :D

    1. @marui

      Hello marui,
      So the person has sent you clovers before?
      Just say 今年もたくさんのクローバーを送って下さいね。
      If you want to say くれる
      今年もたくさんのクローバーを送ってくれますか?(more casual くれる?)= Could you send me a lot of clovers this year as well?

      But the person has never sent you clovers in past and you want to ask if he/she could send you a lot of clovers as well, then
      今年は、たくさんのクローバーも送って下さい(ね)。
      今年はたくさんのクローバーも送ってくれますか?(more casual くれる?)

      1. ya, he did sent me clover before. thank you for your quick response. :D
        btw although it’s quite early but Happy New Year

        明けましておめでとう Maggie 先生 ^-^

    1. @リゼット

      Hello リゼット!
      I don’t know what you mean by “what did i get on my test?” but yes, I would avoid using もらう with my teacher.
      You should use polite form. 頂く
      Ex. Could you mark my test? = 試験を採点して頂けますか?

  10. Hello Maggie Sensei!

    I’m confused between あげよう and あげる…

    I want to tell my friend that I will give her the tickets tomorrow. But we will not be sitting together because seats number are different.
    チケットを明日あげよう/チケットを明日あげる。でも座席番号は異なりますので、一緒に座らない。
    Is this correct??

    I will appreciate a lot if you could and help me with this!
    Cheers~ :)

    1. @Heidi

      Hi Heidi,
      In this case, チケットを明日あげる is better.

      You use あげよう in the following cases.

      1) If you are thinking in your heard, “I will/am going to give this ticket to her tomorrow”, you can say
      明日、彼女にチケットをあげよう。

      2) When you are telling someone who will give the ticket to her together, “Let’s give this ticket to her”, you can say あげよう.

      Other correction :
      でも座席番号は異なりますので、一緒に座らない。

      First, do you want to talk to this person in casual way?
      The first sentence ~あげる is pretty casual so maybe you should stick to the casual speech.
      〜ますので is too formal.
      The seat number should be different so how about

      でも座席番号が離れている*から一緒には座れないの。(girl speech) or 座れないよ(neutral)
      (or 座席が続き番号じゃないから)

      1. Yes! I am talking to her in a casual way.

        Thank you for your prompt reply.
        So, to put everything together. I can either say:
        チケットを明日あげる。でも座席番号が離れているから..一緒には座れないの。
        or
        チケットを明日あげる。でも座席番号が離れているから..一緒には座れないよ。

        Am I right? ^^

        1. @Heidi

          OK, now I read the whole sentence, I think it will be better to use the particle は instead of を in the first sentence.
          How about
          チケットは明日あげるね。でも座席番号が離れているから..一緒には座れないの。or 一緒には座れないよ。

    1. @Blossom

      こんにちは、Blossom!
      受け身と「〜もらう」は気持ちが違いますよ。その違いを少し説明しますね。
      英語で説明しますね。

      Let’s compare the following sentences.

      Ex. 1) 8時に母(はは)に起(お)こしてもらう。
      My mother woke me up at 8:00 (for me)
      (It shows your appreciation towards your mother.)

      Ex. 2) 8時に母(はは)に起(お)こされる。
      I was awakened by my mother at 8:00. ( = My mother woke me up at 8:00.)
      (It may show your annoying feelings towards your mom. I wanted to sleep more but she woke me up.)

      So ~もらう usually implies the feeling of appreciation or happy feeling. Someone does something thinking of you.
      But 受け身 can be used in a negative connotation.

  11. 部屋が汚くなってきたから彼に掃除をしてもらおう。
    Heya ga kitanaku natte kita kara kare ni souji wo shite moraou.
    Since the room is getting messier, let’s get him to clean it up.

    I do not understand what “kita” (before kara) means in this sentence. Could you please explain it?

      1. その文章なんですが、どうして「掃除してまらおう」ですか?
        他の人のために何かをする場合には「。。。てあげる」になると思いましたが、「。。。てもらおう」をよく聞いたことがあって、”..will do for you” という意味ですか?「。。。。てあげよう」と同じ意味ですか?

        1. Hello Lava,

          「~てあげる」は動作をする人が相手のためにある動作をするという意味を表します。
          「汚い部屋を掃除してあげる」は I/we will do him a favor and clean up the messy room.

          「~てもらう」はある人の動作によって、利益や好意を受けたり、または依頼してある行為をさせるようにしたりする意味を表します。
          「汚い部屋を掃除してもらう」は I/we will receive from him the favor of cleaning up the messy room. (If he has made the room messy then now he has to clan it up)

          マギーに日本語を教えてあげる。(=I will teach Maggie Japanese => I will do a favor for Maggie)
          マギーに日本語を教えてもらう。(=Maggie will teach me Japanese => I will receive a favor from Maggie)
          という違いです。

          詳しくはこちらをご覧ください → http://www.coelang.tufs.ac.jp/modules/ja/gmod/contents_m/explanation/086.html

          ご参考になれば幸いざんす。

  12. Maggie sensei!
    Thank you for replying to my message.
    I can now understand that “kurete” is for thanking someone for doing something. Is there other usages for “kurete” besides the purpose of thanking someone?
    Thanks in advance.

    1. @kuroineko

      The other meaning of kurete?

      For example
      Ex. 彼が来(き)てくれてよかった。
      = I am happy that he came over.
      Ex. わかってくれてうれしいです。
      = I am glad that you understand ~
      Ex. Kさんが家に招待(しょうたい)してくれて美味(おい)しい料理(りょうり)を作(つく)ってくれた。
      = K-san invited me over his/her house and cooked me delicious food.

  13. Maggie sensei!! おひさしぶりです
    This lesson is so informative. Thank you so much.
    can you please explain to me what is “kurete”? How to use it and what does it mean? what is the difference between “kureru” and “kurete”?
    and if I want to say “Thank you for coming to visit me”
    do I say “kite kurete arigatou or kite kureta arigatou? I’m so confused.
    thanks in advance^^

    1. @kuroineko

      こんにちは!お久しぶりですね。
      “kureru” is a dictionary form. We use te-form, “kurete” when we continue the sentence or “(doing something) and ~~~~”
      Thank you for coming is
      来てくれてありがとう= kite kurete arigatou.
      A lot of people make the same mistake. (来てくれたありがとう= kite kureta arigatou)
      So remember when you want to say
      Thank you for doing something, you always use te-form.
      手伝ってくれてありがとう= tetsudatte kurete arigatou = Thank you for helping me.
      絵を描いてくれてありがとう= E wo kaite kurete arigatou = Thank you for drawing a picture (for me.)

  14. I came across a sentence that just said “Shinji-kun, 手あげて.” I can’t figure out what that’s supposed to mean. Nothing happens involving hands or anything like that so I can’t help but think it’s some idiom?

    1. @An

      Hello An! Happy New Year!
      Ah that’s あげる is not to do something for someone. It means “to raise”
      So 手(を)あげて is Te (w) agete = raise your hand(s)

  15. こんにちは、マギー先生!

    I´m sorry sensei, because perhaps this is not the post to ask this but I don´t find any information about “ます 形+上げる/上がる”, for example, 書き上がる、作り上げる… I only know the meaning is “to just finish doing + verb” but I don´t understand, for example, which verbs with to use 上げる and which verbs with use 上がる.
    Like always, thank you very much in advance, 先生! ^-^

    1. @Sandra

      First you know the difference between ~上げる and 〜上がる?

      (object) を(verb masu form) 上げる = 他動詞(Transitive verb)
      (subject) が(verb masu form) 上がる = 自動詞 (Intransitive verb)

      ☆Sometimes one verb can be used for both ~上げる and~上がる

      For example the verb 書く

      You finished writing the book,
      (私は)本を書き上げる
      = I finished writing the book.

      In English it is the same meaning but you can put the book as a subject,

      本が書き上がる

      *******
      *(someoneが)肉を焼き上げる (a bit rare but there are cases that we use.)

      *肉が焼き上がる

      *******
      *(someoneが)洋服を仕上げる

      *洋服が仕上がる

      *******
      I will show you other examples which use one of the forms.

      ○歌い上げる
      Ex. Excileの曲を歌い上げる

      X歌い上がる

      *******
      ○育て上げる
      Ex. 子供を育て上げる
      Someone raise the child
      x育て上がる
      *******

      ○出来上がる
      Something is finished/completed

      Ex. 新しい作品が出来上がる

      x出来上げる

      *******
      ○晴れ上がる
      Ex. 空が晴れ上がる
      The sky is clear and you can’t control the sky

      x晴れ上げる

      1. Transitive and intransitive verbs… Thank you Maggie sensei, I don´t know how I couldn´t notice that it was about transitive and intransitive verbs when I read this point of grammar at my book.
        This pattern meaning is “just finished doing…”, right? What about たて? Both pattern meanings are very similar, and don´t know very well what´s the difference between them.
        Thank you very much, 先生!

          1. I didn´t noticed there was a lesson about 〜たて until you told me, 先生.
            I got an idea about 〜たて meaning because an anime called 焼きたてジャパン :) but with your explanation is now completly clear.

            As always, thank you very much for your help 先生 and I´m very sorry to answer so late to your last comment.

  16. Maggie san レッソンは どうもありがとうございます。とてもuseful です!!!!

    I am only beginning to learn Japanese, and was looking up the difference between agete and kurete, and found your blog~~~~

    1. @Kasandra
      こんにちは、Kasandra!
      Thank you for visiting this site! I am very happy to hear this lesson is useful.
      また来てくれたらうれしいです。:)

  17. Thank you very much, Maggie Sensei!
    I think I finally got it…

    Love the website. I think I will use it more frequently from now on.

    Best wishes

  18. Wow!!! This is by far the best, most through and easy to understand explanation I’ve seen :D Thank you so much, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate this. It has been very helpful, because I have a Japanese test coming up :)

  19. I came across your website after someone posted a reply to my question in italki.com. I am trying to find explaination on いただきます but while reading this article, I have another question.

    In this sentence, そのお菓子を息子にもらえますか?, on first look, I thought it meant ‘can I receive sweets from your son?’ Am I wrong?

    1. @changkh

      Hi changkh!
      そのお菓子を息子にもらえますか? can’t be “Can I receive sweets from your son?”
      If I translate “Can I receive sweets from your son?” in Japanese, it should be
      そのお菓子をあなたの息子さん”から”もらえますか?(Or 頂けますか?)

      1. @maggie-sensei

        i was taught that から and に is interchangeable and in this case, に takes the meaning of ‘from’.

        just like another sentence 私はマギーにお菓子をもらった。isn’t t そのお菓子を息子にもらえますか? the same form as it?

        1. @changkh

          Ah I see your confusion now.
          マギーにお菓子をもらった
          マギーからお菓子をもらった
          both means ” I got snacks from Maggie”

          As you said “に” could be “from” however, as for this sentence
          そのお菓子を息子にもらえますか?

          we usually refer to other person’s son as 息子さん and refer to your own son as 息子
          There are cases that you refer to other person’s son as 息子 in casual conversation but you don’t use ます form.
          So the readers naturally think this sentence as “Can I have the snack for my son?”
          And even you change 息子 to 息子さん
          Can I have the snack from your son?
          そのお菓子を(あなたの)息子さんからもらえますか? is more clear in this case.

          If you ask someone to get a snack from their son,
          そのお菓子をあなたの息子さんからもらってもらえますか?

          1. @maggie-sensei,

            thank you for your clarification. now i understand.
            can i say that in this case ‘に’ means ‘to’?

            for your last sentence, ‘そのお菓子をあなたの息子さんからもらってもらえますか?’, what is the purpose of 2 ‘もらう’? is there any difference just using ‘もらえますか’?

          2. @changkh

            Q 1) can i say that in this case ‘に’ means ‘to’?
            →Yes.
            Q2) ‘そのお菓子をあなたの息子さんからもらって(1) もらえ(2)ますか?’, what is the purpose of 2 ‘もらう’? is there any difference just using ‘もらえますか’?

            The first one means “to receive” and the second one is asking the listener for favor, to do something for me. (Ex. やってもらえますか? Ex. 書いてもらえますか?)

          3. so the に in そのお菓子を息子にもらえますか can act as a のために and the sentence would mean something like “息子のために私がもらえる”

          4. Maggie sensei, in this sentence そのお菓子を息子にもらえますか I can’t but think it as “can I get candy from my son” because I was told that にもらえます means “x gave it to y”, how can it be thought as meaning the same as そのお菓子を息子にくれますか?
            if it because the に in に can act as a のために how to tell apart the に/から that indicates who gives and に acting as a のために?

          5. @Snaut

            If the sentence is
            そのお菓子はAさんにもらった
            Then it means the speaker received that snack from A.
            However, もらえますか means “to be able to receive” (= Can you give that snack to my son)
            そのお菓子を息子にもらえますか = May I have that snack for my son?

            1) そのお菓子を息子にもらえますか? May I have that snack for my son?
            2) そのお菓子を息子にくれますか? Can you give that snack to my son?
            Technically they means the same but 1) sounds more polite.

  20. マギー先生~ こんにちは!
    i just discovered your site some time ago and it’s a great help to learning japanese ^^

    I have some questions about the もらう part..

    I’m confused about the difference between に and から used with もらう. Like you stated above, 「私はマギーにお菓子をもらった」 and 「彼からもらいました」。 Is there a difference between usiing に and から for the two sentences? Like, 「私はマギーからお菓子をもらった」? As far as I noticed in example sentences I see that when it’s something like してもらう or おごってもらう it’s mostly (always?) に. Why is that so?

    Also, I have another question about に and から that is, sometimes I hear people saying 「田中さんに聞いて」, in this case can から be used? I always use から in such sentences but I was confused about the に and から usage.

    Hope that you can explain this to me! Thank you maggie sensei!

    And keep up the good work for the site! I will be back to study again ^^

    1. @yuu

      こんにちは! yuu!
      OK, You can both use ~にもらう&〜からもらう and ~に聞く&〜から聞く
      Ex. 誰にもらったの?= 誰からもらったの?
      Ex. 田中さんに聞きました。 = 田中さんから聞きました。
      If there is a difference, I would say から emphasizes more on “direction” (FROM who)

  21. Thank you very much, sensei!, I learned a lot from this lesson! A few days ago I was chatting with a friend and she told me “お母さんに学校まで車で乗せてもらいました。”.Then I got stuck at that part of the conversation because I couldn’t understand it, but now everything is soo clear :D

    ね~先生、一つの間違いがあります
    ここで:
    「山田さんが加藤さんにお菓子をあげた。(=Yamada san ga katou san ni okashi wo kureta.)」
    I’m not intending to point out every mistake, just trying to help and improve your already awesome site ><

    Thanks for your hard work!

    1. @Orti

      Thank you for spotting the mistake. I really appreciate it! Really!! ありがと〜!!
      And I am very happy to hear this lessons helped you understand the conversation with your friend.

      1. 今晩は先生!^^
        えっと。。。 could you please take a look at my exapmples for the exercises to see if they are correct? It would help me a lot :P
        Here I go:
        1). 「お兄さんに洗濯してあげた。」

        . 「お母さんがいつも洗濯してくれます。」 That would mean something like “Mom always does(as an act of kindness) the laundry”?

        .「私の洗濯機が壊れたので、姉さんに洗濯してもらった」(Assuming that she doesn’t live with me)

        2).「友達に買い物に行ってあげました」

        ・「昨日は、私が家でいなくてお母さんが病みましたので隣人が買い物に行ってくれた」 (I tried to say “As I wasn’t at home and mom was sick,our neighbour went shopping for us”)

        .「弟に買い物に行ってもらった」

        3. 「お父さんもう仕事でいますけど彼のメールをもらってあげます」
        .「友達は彼の家で、私がインターネットで書いたケームをもらってくれました」 (I tried to say “My friend recieved (for me) the game I had bought on internet)

        .家でいなかったので、お兄さんにメールをもらってもらった」

        That’s it, thanks in advance, and thank you soooooooooooo much for your hard work!!

        1. @Orti
          1). 「お兄さんに洗濯してあげた。」

          →Good. Also you can say 兄のために洗濯をしてあげた。or 兄の洗濯をしてあげた。

          . 「お母さんがいつも洗濯してくれます。」 That would mean something like “Mom always does(as an act of kindness) the laundry”?

          →Good. Or 母がいつも洗濯(を)してくれます。

          .「私の洗濯機が壊れたので、姉さんに洗濯してもらった」

          →Good! Or 私の洗濯機が壊れたので、姉に洗濯してもらった

          Note : When you refer to your own family,

          You can say お兄さん、お母さん、お姉さん when you talk to your close friends but sometimes it sounds childish.
          (Go check my family lesson.)

          It will be better to say

          お兄さん→兄(あに)
          お母さん→母(はは)
          お姉さん→姉(あね)
          お父さん→父(ちち)

          2).「友達に買い物に行ってあげました」

          →友達の(ために) 買い物に行ってあげました。

          ・「昨日は、私が家でいなくてお母さんが病みましたので隣人が買い物に行ってくれた」

          This one is a bit complicated. How about 昨日、母が病気で私も家にいなかったので隣の人が私たちの為に買い物に行ってくれた。

          .「弟に買い物に行ってもらった」 →OK!

          3. 「お父さんもう仕事でいますけど彼のメールをもらってあげます」

          →I am not sure what you are trying to say here but

          父はもう仕事に出かけたので、(彼の代わりに)手紙を受け取ります。

          If you are talking to your dad, you can use あげる

          「友達は彼の家で、私がインターネットで書いたケームをもらってくれました」 

          →友達は私が、インターネット(or ネット) で買ったゲームを彼の家で受け取ってくれました。

          .家でいなかったので、お兄さんにメールをもらってもらった」

          →家にいなかったので(or 外出していたので)兄に手紙を受け取ってもらった。

          (When you say メール in Japanese, it means “email” so say 手紙)

          1. 返事して有り難うございます、先生!!

            As I’m a beginner it took me some time to think how to write 2.2 :S 。 I have a doubt, when you are listing situations like these (I wasn’t home and mother was ill) the tense of the last verb is the one which leads the whole sentence? or you can mix tenses?

            In 3 that’s exactly what I was trying to say :P
            So if dad is not at home I could say something like that to the postman?
            Hahah and I hadn’t noticed that I had put kaita instead of katta, I always mistake the past form of kau and kaku e_e

            I’ll definitely see the Family lesson and remember your corrections!

            And once again…有り難う!!

          2. @Orti
            Q 1: when you are listing situations like these (I wasn’t home and mother was ill) the tense of the last verb is the one which leads the whole sentence? or you can mix tenses?
            Ah, good question! Yes. When you simply list two past actions in one sentence, change the last verb into the past.

            For example
            I wrote a letter and mailed it.
            手紙を書いて、投函した。
            or
            手紙を書き、投函した。
            It was hot and delicious
            温かくて美味しかった。
            or
            温かく美味しかった。

            Q 2: So if dad is not at home I could say something like that to the postman?

            Yes

            ****************
            Actually you did a good job writing all the sentences with あげる、もらう、くれる
            Those are very difficult.
            がんばってね!

  22. Sry i’m brazilian, so my english isn’t good but…

    i loved your website, and i have a question:

    its writen: フン!何もしてくれたことないくせに!

    instead of saying that, isnt better says 「何もしてくれないくせに」

    i Dont know if have some difference betwen,
    if there are, can you explain me?

    1. ah!, got it…

      in this case
      何もしてくれない is something like “you dont do nothing for me

      in the same situation]
      何もしてくれたことない became something like “You’ve never done anything for me”

      and the reason for this, would be… 「ことない」

      its right?

      1. @Alexandre

        Hi! Alexandre! はじめまして!
        Yes, you got it. !happyface!
        何もしてくれない= You don’t do anything for me.
        何もしてくれたこと(が)ない= You haven’t done anything for me.

  23. domo arigatou sensei…
    i’m a 14 years old student and i learn japanese in myschool..
    with ur site,i can understand everything clearly^_^

    1. @Faika-Chan

      Arigatou for your comment! Wow! You are 14 years old and learning Japanese? Ganbattene!!! Good luck! Feel free to leave comments or ask questions here anytime!

      1. はーい!がんばろう!!If you ever have time, just give me some sentences in English and I’ll try and translate ^_~

  24. I would like to take some time now to tell you how much I LOVE YOU!!!! XD

    This has indeed been an absolutely wonderful lesson and I will deffinetly take time to read your entire blog! Thank you so much! XD

      1. thanks very much sensei,, its really helpful definitely it was the best explanation of shite ageru/morau/kureru, now i have no doubt to say that i have no more doubts regarding these phrases.
        thanks very much

  25. Wow, I’m amazed to see how you can clearly put this m(_ _)m
    I mean, ガチで、I don’t know how I can have lived without your site!

    I understand it is a deep topic and it might need an entire lesson about it, but you already helped me a lot right here!

    I don’t know how to say thank you as these two words seem not enough! ぜひ一所懸命勉強やりますよ!

  26. Thank you very much! This was as always a clear and Nice explanation!

    May I ask one more thing on this subject?
    Since you say they’re used the same way, I’d like to know if there’s a difference between する and やる, ( like usage, meaning, even the slightest difference would help me grasp the true nature of these two verbs. I’ve always had a problem with words meaning the same thing, as I always like to know why there’s two, when there could be one.)

    Talking about your site, it is really neat, and the concept of image lesson is a funny idea! Keep it up!
    Your help is really appreciated! d(^_^o)

    1. めっちゃマット♪
      Good question but this theme is very deep. I will just explain a part of it here today OK?
      Some says やる is a colloquial version of する

      Ex.勉強をする 
      Ex.勉強をやる sounds a bit more casual than する

      but I would say in many cases, people use it without distinguish them.

      However if you compare the following examples,

      何もする気がしない。
      何もやる気がしない。
      I don’t feel like doing anything

      さあ勉強しようか。
      さあ勉強やろうか。
      Shall we study now?

      私がします。
      私がやります。
      I will do it!

      明日は、何をしますか?
      明日は、何をやりますか?
      What are you going to do tomorrow?

      あなたがするべきこと。
      あなたがやるべきこと。
      The things you should do.

      The translation is the same but やる shows stronger will.

      (a) 何をしようか?
      (b) 何をやろうか? 
      They both mean “What are we going to do?” But (b) implies to do something more special involving your action.

      And the we tend to use やる for something special and する for normal stuff.

      Also there are cases that you can’t use one of them.

      For example something physiological that you can’t control,
      to sneeze
      ○ くしゃみをする 
      x くしゃみをやる

      to yawn
      ○ あくびをする 
      x あくびをやる

      When you achieve something, we use やる

      I made it! / I did it!
      ○ やった!
      x した!

      In some compound verb, noun+verb, you can’t use やる

      ○昼寝をする
      X昼寝をやる
      to take a nap

      ○失敗をする
      X失敗をやる
      to make a mistake

      But there are more…I should make a lesson someday, huh?
      今日はこの辺で!!

      I’m happy to hear you have been using this site!

  27. You answered it perfectly!

    I am now aware that it won’t sound weird of I use the あげる form! That’s a good thing!

    Concerning the last paragraph, is it because it is やる used on its own, as a verb, not as a “form coming after a 〜て verb”?

    Well, even on its own, やる is still a bit rough, though. But then again, there is this use I hear quite often, ex:
    「さあ、やってみよう!」
    and many times it is said by young girls. Then I guess this use is ok because of their youth, and accepted between friends as we grow up…

    By the way, I’ll take some time to read your entire site, from begginer lessons (we can never learn too much, even the basics), up to the higher levels (I really appreciated some if the colloquial and very polite posts).
    As a matter of fact I have created an IRC channel to exchange interesting links, talk about Japanese, and help each other when needed, but it is still a bit young, and I come accross my limits quite often. So be sure the address of your site will be given each time!

    Thank you for your time, this kind of site is what makes Internet a great place to discover!

    1. めっちゃマットさん

      Actually やる has different meanings.
      花に水をやる to water flowers
      犬にえさをやる to feed a dog

      These やる means “to give” and 「さあ、やってみよう!」’s やる means “to do”.

      Ex. 1)  何をしているの?=何をやっているの? What are you doing?
      Ex. 2) 宿題をしないといけない=宿題をやらないといけない。 I have to do my homework.
      Ex. 3) これしてくれる?=これやってくれる?=Can you do it for me?

      They are all used commonly both by boys and girls.

      So only やる that you have to be careful when you use is the one which has a meaning of “to give something to someone” and “to do something for someone”
      Those are only for inferiors, people who are younger than you, or someone who is very close to you, like your kids or younger brothers or sisters.

      This site is relatively new. I am still doing lots of experiments. But I always try to include information for any levels both colloquial and formal.
      I really appreciate your feedback!

  28. Hello マギー先生!

    I have a question about “〜て やる”. First, is it really less formal than “〜て あげる” ?

    I mean, it has always seemed to me that やる was more of a male speech usage and あげる a female one. If it is true, is a boy saying 〜てあげる really sounding “female” or is it just like sentences ending with 〜くださいね。(where it tends to be more used by female, but can be used by male as well) ?

    In the end, I’m always puzzled about this case. I never know if using やる won’t make me sound too familiar, while using あげる, too close to a female speech and as a result, weird…

    If you could give me a clue, it would be really appreciated!
    Thank you very much for your time!

    本当にありがとうございます!マギー先生のおかげで、日本語がもっと早くできるよ!

    1. あっ!めっちゃマットの”初”質問だ!!

      When I made this lesson, I thought I would make a different lesson about やる(=yaru) because this lesson got too long as usual and it completely slipped my mind. Sorry! !gomenchai!

      First of all, あげる is a polite form of やる. As you said women should avoid using やる because it sounds very blunt.
      On the other hand あげる is just a politer form of やる and it doesn’t sound effeminate at all. So you (boys) can use it anytime.
      (But of course, if you want to show yourself tough and macho, you can use やる。)

      Let’s compare these together OK?

      “I will give it to you”
      1)これあげるよ。
      2) これやるよ。

      They both means the same thing but 1) sounds much nicer.
      Men can use 1) & 2) but women shouldn’t use 2)

      “I will make it for you!”
      3)作ってあげる。
      4)作ってやる。

      Again, 3) sounds nicer and men can both 3)&4) but women should avoid using 4)

      But there is other やる which is not rough.

      If you deal with animals or plants, you can use やる anytime and both men and women can use.

      花に水をやる to water flowers
      犬にえさをやる to feed a dog

      Did I answer your question?

  29. Maggie Sensei,

    I have just found your blog and I must say your work is impressive !

    I have been self learning Japanese for a while now but has been having difficulty linking the formal Japanese that I am learning as compared to spoken Japanese in the drama/movie.
    度もありがとうございました!
    こちらこそ おねがいします。

    1. Ivan-san,

      Japanese you have learned with a text book is very formal. But we don’t always talk like that.
      I will try to make lessons mixing both formal and colloquial Japanese.
      And please feel free to practice writing in Japanese and I will correct you!
      (Note : I think it is typo but ….度もー>どうも)
      Mata kitene!

    1. Harin-san

      いえいえ、こちらこそ、いつもこのサイトに来てくれてありがとう!!

      (Note : 他の人に言うときは、「マギー先生がいつも私の文章を添削してくれる。」って言いますけど、「マギー先生」に話しかける時は、
      「マギー先生が」の「が」はこの場合、いりません。->「マギー先生、いつも私の文章を添削してくれて、ありがとうございます!」
      日本語でコメントもらうのとっても嬉しいです!がんばってね!)

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