労る(いたわる) Caring Expressions *Formal (Requested Lesson)

January 25, 2010 in Formal Japanese, Japanese manners


Itawaru

:maggie-small: 「不器用だけど、あなたのことを思いながらこの鶴を折りました。」

(=Bukiyou dakedo, anata no koto wo omoi nagara kono tsuru wo orimashita.)

“I am clumsy but I folded this paper crane thinking of you!”

 

今日は、皆さん!(=Konnichiwa minasan!) Hi everyone!

We recently received a request from J-san. He has been helping homeless people, and he wants to be able to sympathize without sounding patronizing. He wants to learn vocabulary that he can use to let them know he is thinking/caring about their problems. So I will try to make a lesson not just focusing on helping homeless people but also people in trouble around you. I’ll teach you some useful expressions that you can use when you want to show your concerns to people and to offer them help politely.

It might be a bit difficult, but as usual, please pick whatever information that you think is useful from this lesson!

First, let’s look at today’s verb.

:u:

労る/いたわる(=itawaru) We don’t always use kanji for this verb — just use hiragana.

漢字(=kanji ) : rou/itawaru /negirau (itawashii)

•労働 (=roudou)

労力 (=rouryoku) labor

 

労る/いたわる(=itawaru) to care about something (body/ health) or somebody (sick people, people in trouble, etc). / to treat someone with care / to be concerned about someone / to be considerate / to console

→Noun form 労り/いたわり(=itawari)

体を労る(=karada wo itawaru)to take care of one’s body/health.

Ex. 「お体を労って下さいね。

(=Okarada wo itawatte kudasaine.)

Please take care of yourself.

お年寄りを労る

(=Otoshiyori wo itawaru)

to care about or for aged people

彼(に)は労りの気持がない

(=Kare (ni)wa itawari no kimochi ga nai.)

He doesn’t have a feeling of caring.→He doesn’t care about others (who are in trouble).

怪我をした足をって歩く 

(=Kega wo shita ashi wo itawatte aruku.)
To walk caring about the injured leg. To favor the uninjured leg and not use the injured one.

人は合って生きて行かなければなりません。

(=Hito wa itawari atte ikite ikanakereba narimasen.)
People have to live by caring for each other.

Gramatical note : 合う(=au) each other

Ex. 助け合う(=tasukeau) to help each other

:rrrr: synonym : 大切にする(=taisetsu ni suru) 気遣う(=kizukau) (check our lesson!)  to care / to be concerned.

人を労る/いたわる(=hito wo itawaru)

To treat people (people in general, sick people or people in trouble) with care or in a sympathetic way.

From the picture above:

:maggie-small: 「不器用だけど、あなたのことを思(想)いながらこの鶴を折りました。」

(=Bukiyou dakedo, anata no koto wo omoi nagara kono tsuru wo orimashita.)

“I am clumsy but I folded this paper crane thinking of you!”

:rrrr: •不器用(=bukiyou) clumsy, all thumbs

•〜だけど(=dakedo ) although / …but * casual → *formal ですが(=desuga)

あなたのことを思い (or 想い)ながら(=anata no koto wo omoinagara) while thinking of you

ながら(=nagarado something while doing something else

Ex. 食べながら電話をかける(=tabe nagara denwa wo kakeru) to call someone (dial) or talk on the phone while eating

この鶴を折りました。(=kono tsuru wo orimashita.)

(I )folded this paper crane.

:ii: Culture note :

折り紙 (=origami) : Japanese traditional paper craft which you make by folding a piece of color paper. It usually use just one piece of square color paper without glue or cutting with scissors. Japanese small children learn this at kindergarten or elementary school.

The most common one is 折り鶴(=orizuru) folded-paper crane

I made a video to show you how to make one!

:u:

(=tsuru) a crane is a symbol for long life.

→There is a saying 「鶴は千年、亀は万年(=Tsuru wa sennen kame wa mannen) Cranes live for 1,000 years and turtles live for 10,000 years. So cranes are considered to be a symbol of good luck or long life.

1,000 paper cranes are called as 千羽鶴 (=senba zuru).

People fold each paper-crane and pray for the recovery from a long lasting illness of their close friend or family and put all the 1,000 cranes together in the end and give it to the sick person. It is also considered to be a symbol of peace.

<Caring expressions>

Now going back to J-san’s email, how can we express our feeling of caring without sounding patronizing?

Sometimes just saying

(どうか)がんばって下さい。

(=(Douka) Ganbatte kudasai.)

Please hang in there!/Good luck!

is enough to show your sincere sympathetic feelings more than any other long sentences. (Adding どうか=douka makes the sentence sound stronger .)

For the more advanced students, there are also longer appropriate sentences for each situation like some of the below.

<Not to be too direct!>

One thing you want to remember here is that we tend to avoid direct expressions in Japanese.

For example, if you want to offer some help to a person in trouble, a dictionary definition would say :

私はあなたを助けたいです。

(=Watashi wa anata wo tasuketai desu)

I want to help you.

Of course we do say this in certain cases but it is too direct and too dramatic for most situations.

So instead of saying this, you can say, for example,

お役に立てたら嬉しいです。

(=Oyaku ni tatetara ureshii desu.)

“I would be happy if I can be helpful for you.”

or

お力になれたら嬉しいです。

(=Ochikara ni naretara ureshii desu.)

As many of you already know, we often avoid finishing a sentence in order to make it sound softer. The listener will finish the sentence in their mind.

Ex. 明日は忙しいのですが…

(=Ashita wa isogashii no desu ga…)

I am busy tomorrow (but)..

is sound softer than

明日は忙しいです。

(=Ashita wa isogashii desu.)

I am busy tomorrow.

<Be humble!>

Also we have to be humble.

Ex. 微力ながら〜(=biryoku nagara) to offer help

My ability is pretty poor but , I am powerless but…

Ex. お役には立ちませんが〜/立たないかもしれませんが〜

(=Oyaku niwa tachimasen ga/tatanai kamo shiremasen ga)

to offer something physical or intellectual.

I am helpless (useless) but…/I might be helpless but…

Ex. ささやかですが、(=Sasayaka desuga..) to offer things/money

This is just a little but

Ex. 何も出来ませんが、(=Nanimo dekimasenga..)

I can’t do anything but…

Note : Even if you don’t finish the sentence after ですが…. (=desuga…) people would understand that you are willing to help them.

Here is a list of some useful & polite phrases that you can use to encourage people, help people, and offer help to people in trouble:

:i: 気配り表現(=Kikubari hyougen) Caring expressions for people in troubles.

:grin: (This time I will just focus on polite expressions.)

:w: How toencourage people:

励ます (=hagemasu): to encourage

励まし(=hagemashi) : encouragement

:u:

元気を出して下さい。

(=Genki wo dashite kudasai.)

Please cheer up! (for people who are depressed.)

いろいろ大変かと思いますがどうか頑張って下さい。

(=Iroiro taihen kato omoimasu ga douka ganbatte kudasai.)

I know things are tough but please hang in there. (→You can avoid mentioning all the details.)

辛いこともあるかもしれませんがどうか頑張ってください。

(=Tsurai kotomo arukamo shiremasen ga douka ganbatte kudasai.)

You may encounter some difficulties but please hang in there.

Caring about their health is very common encouragement.

お体(or (御)健康)に気をつけて下さい。

(=Okarada(or (Go)Kenkou) ni ki wo tsukete kudasai.)

Please take care of your body(or health).

あまり無理はしないで下さいね。

(=Amari muri wa shinai de kudasai.)

Don’t be so hard on yourself. / Don’t work so hard. / Don’t do too much.

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<If it is in winter…>

風邪ひかない様に気をつけて下さい。

(=Kaze hikanai you ni ki wo tsukete kudasai.)

Please be careful not to catch a cold.

寒いですがどうか気をつけてください。

(=Samui desu ga douka kiwo tsukete kudasai.)

It is cold (or It has been cold) but please take care of yourself.

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<Specific cases>

To a sick person :

くれぐれもお大事にして下さい。(=Kureguremo odaiji ni shite kudasai.)

Please take good care of yourself.

早く治して下さい。(=Hayaku naoshit ekudasai.) Get well soon!

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To someone who has just lost a close family member:

御愁傷様です。(=Goshuushou sama desu.) My condolences.

どうかお気落としのない様に。(=Douka oki otoshi no nai you ni.)

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The direct translation “Don’t be too depressed!” /”Don’t be so discouraged.” may not sound appropriate but we use this to encourage them.

If you address to a person who is really sick or has lost their house because of some disaster, you can say or write,

心よりお見舞い申し上げます。(=Kokoro yori omimai moushiagemasu. )

Please accept my sincere sympathy for you.

(This is very formal. You will see in written form or in some speeches.)

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To someone who has failed their examinations:

本当に残念ですね。また次回がんばって下さい。(=Hontou ni zannenn desu ne. Mata jikai ganbatte kudasai.)

It is too bad. But good luck on the next one!

:!: Simply to show your sympathy to people who went through a hard time you can say :

いろいろ大変でしたね。(=Iroiro taihen deshitane.)

I am aware that) you have been through a difficult time.

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:s: How to offer help:

私に何か出来ることありませんか?

(=Watashi ni nani ka dekiru koto wa arimasen ka?)

Is there anything that I can do (for you)?

私に出来ることあれば(何でも)言って下さい。

(=Watashi ni dekiru koto ga areba (nandemo) itte kudasai.)

Please tell me anything that I can do.

お力になれたら嬉しいです。

(=Ochikara ni naretara ureshii desu.)

I will be very happy if I can be of any help to you.

私に出来ることは限られていますが何かお役に立てることがあれば言って下さい。

(=Watashi ni dekiru koto wa kagirarete imasu ga nani ka oyaku ni tateru koto ga areba itte kudasai.)

I know what I can do is very limited but please let me know if there is anything that I can do for you.

何もお役に立てないかもしれませんが何かあったら言って下さい。

(=Nanimo oyaku ni tatenai kamo shiremasen ga nanika atttara itte kudasai.)

I’m not sure there is anything I can do, but if there is please let me know.

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:l: When you offer something :

Again you have to be modest!

(これ)わずかですが何かのお役に立てば嬉しいです(for offering money or things)

(=(Kore) wazuka desuga nanika no oyaku ni tateba ureshii desu.)

This is so little (that I can offer) but hope it can be useful for something. (usually for offering money)

この位のことしか出来ませんがどうか使って下さい。(for offering money or things.)

(=Korekurai no koto shika dekimasen ga douka tsukatte kudasai.)

This is as much as I can do but please use this.

せめてこの位はさせて下さい。(when offering things or physical labor or work .)

(=Semete kono kurai wa sasete kudasai.)

Please let me at least do this.

差し出がましいとは思いますが是非受け取って下さい。(for offering money or things.)

(=Sashidegamashii towa omoimasu ga zehi uketotte kudasai.)

It could be uncalled for but please use this.

これよかったらどうぞ使って下さい。(for offering things. Could be used for money but a it’s a bit direct.)

(=Kore yokattara tsukatte kudasai.)

Please use this if you like.

少しでも力になれれば(or お役にたてれば)嬉しいです。(General)

(=Sukoshi demo chikarani narereba (or oyaku ni tatereba) ureshii desu.

I will be very happy if I can be of even a little service.

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Grammatical Note : I used a lot of 〜下さい。(=kudasai)-ending in the above example sentences but you will see/hear 下さい(=Kudasaine) often in daily conversation.

Ex. 体に気をつけて下さい。(=Karada ni ki wo tsukete kudasai.) Please take care of yourself.

体に気をつけて下さい(=Karada ni ki wo tsukete kudasai ne.) Please take care of yourself ,OK?

Women prefer to use this ending but men can use this ending as well. It makes the sentence sound softer or sweeter.

Thanks for the question, J-san. I hope you find something useful in this?


frenchbulldogマギー先生より(=Maggie sensei yori) From Maggie-sensei

周りに困っている人がいたら自分の出来ることから何かやってあげるといいと思うの。

(=Mawari ni komatte iru hito ga itara jibun no dekiru koto kara nanika yatte ageru to iito omou no.)

If you see someone in trouble, I think we should start with something that you can do.

私は、この折り鶴をハイチの大地震で困っている人達に贈りたいな。(=Watashi wa kono orizuru wo Haiti no daidishin de komatte iru hitotachi ni okuritaina.)

I would like to give this paper crane to the people who are suffering from the big earthquake in Haiti.



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